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Romantic chemistry is all about warm, gooey feelings that gush from the deepest depths of the heart…right? Not quite. Actually, the real boss behind attraction is your brain, which runs through a very quick, very complex series of calculations when assessing a potential partner. Dawn Maslar explores how our five senses contribute to this mating game, citing some pretty wild studies along the way.
Lesson by Dawn Maslar, animation by TOGETHER.
How do you explain that many people tend to be attracted to those who are not attracted in return?
Confirmation bias.
So after watching the video, you came to the conclusion that if you’re attracted to Angelina Jolie for instance, then Angelina should be attracted to you?!
Aero, great question! My research shows that attraction is complex. We are attracted to both opposites and familiar at the same time. For example, someone needs to be familiar enough that we feel comfortable, yet at the same time we are naturally repulsed when someone is too close – such as the MHC molecules. Those factors can cause finding a suitable match challenging.
DawnMaslarTV
Hi!
Do you have any papers published, based on your own research?
Altay Hunter
True. 🙂
And some other interesting cognitive biases that might come along for that ride:
Attentional bias, mere exposure effect, bandwagon effect, focalism, backfire effect, physical attractiveness stereotyping, selective perception, halo-effect, projection bias, etc. 😛
I’m glad that it was mentioned at the beginning that attraction starts with the eyes and that’s cultural/socially determined.
I just wanna say I loved the animation in this. It’s stellar
the human characters are creepy tho
looks like a scene from yellow submarine
+waawamellon looks like a scene from power puff girls
+pcakes It’s great. Sometimes it lookes kinda creepy though ._.
+Guillermo Ortíz Im pretty sure :39 is the no where man
Definitely a better love story than TWILIGHT.
lol
hahaha I liked that story
Lol.
+kokjong son 2010 wants their joke back
paranormal activity was a better love story than twilight
So if someone is asexual, does that mean that their body just doesn’t run these tests, or do they just not get attracted by any of these factors, plain and simple? And as for those who fall in love mainly based on personality, what is the science behind that? o:
+LilyToon Asexual people either don’t run these tests or don’t respond to them. It varies from person to person, depending on their genetics and other conditions.
As for those who fall in love based on personality, they still very much run these tests—this science is merely for sexual and reproductive purposes—but human beings (as well as certain animals) also run additional tests to determine if the person/being they’re interacting with is a candidate for a lifelong mate. It takes a while to run these tests, and they take place on both the cognitive and subconscious level, which is why it’s generally a good idea to have been seeing a person for a while before considering dropping the question.
***** Thank you for the answer! It definitely answered my questions very well!
Aesuxals (most) still feel love and aesthic atraction (someone lookin hot), however they simply have no disire to have intercourse. That is why ace dating sites exist.
+LilyToon Fall in love =/= attraction
Myself being an Asexual i can say i do run these test but when it comes down to the sex part it’s just like simply no attraction at all, also it depends on the person too.
The more I warch TED the more i think I’m a psychopath.
+George Szweden LOL. explain?
+George Szweden Time to seek help then
I felt the same way after this video 😂 I’m not often attracted to someone. Actualy haven’t been in a year I guess. I guess there’s something wrong with me haha!
same .
*slides back into the Asexual corner*
actually that makes it even more romantic ! knowing that not only my eyes or heart are falling in love but also my nose and immune system did too 😍
***** 😂😂 but still romantic
Same tbh. Just because it’s a series of chemicals doesn’t make it any less magical.
Aw that’s a cute way to put it
Also, I heard that most people can live a life without romance and can still be happy. But most of the time, if someone doesn’t have any platonic friends in their life, it can effect them really bad mentally; much worse than living a life without a romantic partner. In today’s world, less people are dating and getting married now, and they seem to be more happy being single rather than being in romantic relationship with someone.
Also, You’re going to have a much deeper spoken understanding and connection with your best friend than you are with a romantic partner or spouse.
So those are other reasons why romantic love isn’t real or special, while platonic love is.
And also, it seems that fathers usually hate it whenever their daughter gets a boyfriend (even if the boyfriend is a good guy), and it seems that they often hate the idea of their daughter dating, and many fathers seem against the idea of their daughters dating. There are even shirts made for daughters that say “I’M NOT ALLOWED TO EVER DATE” and shirts made for fathers that say “DADS AGAINST DAUGHTERS DATING”.
Brothers also tend to act the same way that fathers do whenever their sister gets a boyfriend (even if the boyfriend is a good guy). It seems brothers (like fathers) hate the idea of their sisters dating.
So it seems that most fathers don’t ever want their daughters to find love and be in a romantic relationship with someone, and it also seems that most brothers don’t ever want their sisters to find love and be in a romantic relationship with someone.
So those could also be other reasons why the concept of romantic relationships isn’t a good thing because of how protective fathers and brothers tend to be whenever their daughter or sister dates someone.
A LOT of people here are completely forgetting that attraction is much more complicated than this. No matter how perfect a person might be to me scientifically, if they start insulting me then I’m not going to be attracted to them.
+David Perrier 😂
David Perrier 😂😂😂💀💀
actually this video is very misleading. pheromones are the least important component in human attraction. they don’t want to show you the real data because that will hurt alot of feelings
what’s the real data or where can i find it
What if they make garlic bread? Good quality garlic bread.
Lesson: girls, if you wanna attract a guy remember to wear the same shirt 3 days in a row while ovulating
Ok
But females only ovulate one day, and the ovule is dead after 24 hours.
And y is dat?
pissicutza09 mine last for 2 days instead of 1 so does that mean I have super eggs
probably my “super power”…imagine if there was an actual power like that
Favour Olufemi But how do you know it lastef for two days? o.O
I was already in love with my boyfriend before we kissed. We were crazy attracted to each other. I can’t imagine that I possibly wouldn’t have liked him after we kissed. I don’ think that would’ve have been possible with the chemistry we already had. The funny thing is people have said we look alike. We’re even of different ethnicities. 5 years later and I love him more than life.
u still together ?
Thanos teaaa also how tf did you get tsars lol
Let me guess rich average looking white man and poor pretty immigrant Asian chick 😒😂
U guys still together? 😁
So did he cheat on you? That’s why you aren’t replying anymore.
Loved this! So informative
You got it Zoey Arielle!
Haven’t I see you somewhere before?
It wasn’t for thots tho
great presentation on the physiological processes of attraction. can’t help but nod to every aspect of the senses’ reactions. but of course, it’s more than physiological, it’s also psychological! 🙂
This is really interesting, but I’d love to know why some people find different people attractive (I like someone someone that most of my friends think is unattractive), and also how this all works for lgbt individuals.
The formula of attaction is F=G((m1*m2)/r^2), where G is gravitational constant, m1 and m2 are masses of the object and r is the distance between them.
It seems universal gravitation formula👀
It seems universal gravitation formula 👀
Sophomore year Physics helped me understand and chuckle😄
I get gravitational force…. Causes an attraction between two celestial bodies mahd guy 😂
That means I should gain weight to attract people 😂😂
I explained this to my girlfriend, she now thinks that I’m an emotionless, hearless and feelingless human being. Thank you science.
no problem, Karman.
Should have given her hot coffee smh
@demutrudu LMFAO 😭😭💀💀
People: Love comes from the heart.
Brain: Am i a joke to you?
well said 😀
hahahahahahahaha
Lol
Frenzel Diongzon after seeing this video lmao Bc it’s soooooo tru
It’s a saying
It’s funny because it’s often looked down upon, or perhaps not taken as seriously (even by me), but by this logic the purest relationships would actually be one’s that start online or even more through anonymous site based interaction, as if a relationship forms only through an exchange of words, it means attraction is based fully on and through personality aspects, and no other depreciating factors. What a time to be alive.
funny isnt it
Well that doesn’t need this logic to make sense. I’ve been telling people this for ages.
That depends on what the definition of “pure,” really is …
no u cld fall in love with the idea of someone though
Don’t forget that love and lust are very different things. Love is a bond formed over a long period time; attachment (you wouldn’t love your parents the same way you do now if they were just strangers but treating you the same way) and lust is the attraction to one’s body, as seen in this video.
actually the fact that romance is so scientific is beautiful because your entire body is part of this. It’s like every part of your body is in tandem with your thoughts
my thoughts exactly
There are studies being done that our thoughts and memories can be stored throughout our body.
Mutual attraction. The undeniable chemistry you have between your lover.
It ignites the fire. It sparks conversation. It just happens to everyone. 100%